When I lived in India I learned to avoid eye contact with men, as it was interpreted as a sexual advance. Therefore, I put my head down and made myself small. This was over 10 years ago- it is my understanding much has changed since then. Still, even as a self identified progressive feminist I attributed this cultural norm to old world patriarchy. Returning to USA I realized I also avoid eye contact with men to defend myself against sexual harassment and micro aggressive behaviors (I still do this). I further realized my view of India was engrained cultural imperialism (othering). I also saw I was so accustomed to sexism in the USA it was invisible to me. Combined, the backlash to feminism is dangerous as it is paradoxical (yes, we have come a long way), but it is also becoming more and more subversive. My first public political rant, as I reflect on my work from India. Travel is important and privileged.