When you find out that the only person that didnt know I was being cheated on for 3 years was me 😂😂😂 Fuck I have had some great friends and acquaintances over the years 👊 If I knew 3 years ago I wouldnt be broken now. Thanks everyone 👊 #noonecares#trustissues#brokenheart#ihateyou
Everyone in your life can potentially let you down – people may disappoint you, leave you, let you down, lie to you, pass away or just be plain rude and ignorant. It doesn’t mean that we keep our distance from others, it purely means that we need to be able to trust the one person we can rely on – ourselves.
When you gain that sense of self-trust you just know what move to make next, you trust your decisions and are able to take risks, simply because your sense of self hasn’t been created externally.
Being kind to yourself stops you seeking that need for approval whilst building up your self-esteem so start with this right now. Start loving and caring for yourself – look at how you talk to yourself, watch how you treat yourself – this will increase that self-trust as well as create deeper loving connections with others.
Trusting yourself means that you can look after yourself, care for your needs and know that you are safe. Acknowledging your thoughts and feelings, allowing yourself to express these in a way that works for you whilst practicing behaviours that are in alignment with your values all encompass that self-trust.
We need to know that we have to put ourselves first, to care for ourselves first, have a knowing that we will survive making mistakes and that we can keep trying to pursue our dreams without our own limitations or limiting others in anyway.
Did you know that we aren’t taught trust as children; as a child you were actually taught to be dependent upon others – you may well have been taught positive messages about yourself but that in itself is not trust. So how do you start the process of self-trust?
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Please strictly anonymous. I lost my husband 5 years ago. I am 50 years old. My daughter invited me to come and stay in her house because she needed somebody to take care of her kids since she is resuming work. She is a nurse and once in a while, she will be on night work. She said she is afraid of Nanny and househelps. However, on this particular night, she was called to work at the hospital at short notice.
I went to bed early but got up to go to the bathroom. As I passed her bedroom, the door was slightly ajar and I heard moaning from inside.
I saw my son-in-law through the crack in the door and, for some reason that I cannot fathom, I took a deep breath, opened the door and stood there watching him pleasure himself. I just saw it as an opportunity to check if i am still s*xually active cos since my husband died, i have not had s*x. He got even more excited so then I dropped my night gown and joined him in the bed. We had fantastic sex and he told me that i am more experienced than my daughter.
Since then nothing has been mentioned about this by either of us – it’s as if it never happened. My son in law wanted more of it but i can't continue. I am already feeling guilty.
This is weird for me as I have never been the sort of person to take matters into my own hands before or do anything impulsive. I’m 50 now and have been through the menopause, so what’s happening to me? CeeTee am i being controlled by the effect of menopause? .